Unlike women who undergo physical changes once they get pregnant and become mothers, the changes that men experience on becoming fathers are not seen outside. However, just like women, men’s physical chemistry also undergoes changes – majorly they experience a significant drop in their testosterone levels, and other hormones too change to make them more nurturing and caring for their family. And there is a plus to these hormonal changes – lower levels of testosterone are linked to a reduced risks of prostrate cancer and higher cholesterol. Father’s too become as involved as moms in their kids’, and in fact belong to a group of mammal species where fathers play a vital role in the upbringing of their children. And mind you, this group is mad up of less than 6% of mammals! Now that is something to be proud of, isn’t it?
10 Optimistic Changes In Men That Happen As They Become Fathers
Eagerly awaiting for that wonderful moment with your precious bundle will be put into your hands? Although you are quite prepared for the setbacks being first time parents may bring about, there are of course some lovely positive aspects of being parents. There is every chance you as a mother might be apprehensive about how your husband will fit into the role of a father. Worry not. You will be pleasantly surprised how easily your husband adapts to his new role. Just relax and enjoy motherhood while your hubby begins to experience the thrills of being a father for the first time. Here are some positive changes you are sure to see in your man once the little bundle of love comes into your life.
1. Husbands become responsible:
Being a dad is no joke and overnight most men become much more responsible in every sense of the word. Caring for the little prince or princess, financial responsibilities all make men open their eyes and automatic gear them up for fatherhood. They begin trying out everything. Men- though apprehensive at first, gradually try out all the mundane tasks involved in looking after your little one, be it feeding, dressing him or her, bathing or putting the baby to sleep. In fact, taking care of a baby reshapes the man’s brain much like a mom’s except for the feeding part. Men start to become emotionally more responsible for the well-being of their babies
2. Saving for the rainy day:
Men begin spending thoughtfully saving up for the future, all thanks to their new role as a dad. Most men feel that a new addition to the family requires thoughtful monetary planning and this makes them actually sit down and work out how to make ends meet apart from saving a tidy sum for your little one’s future. They begin spending wisely and will surely begin thinking twice before they splurge unnecessarily like they used, to before the arrival of the baby. They become more careful, wiser and want to ensure the best for their child early on
3. They start looking at you with new respect:
As they realize what a woman goes through to have their baby, men begin loving and respecting their wives all the more after they become daddies for the first time. A husband starts to look after tiny details and would try to be as helpful as he can in attempts to make you comfortable. They become much more caring and attentive to both their baby and the wife. So enjoy all the attention and pampering while it lasts
4. Husbands start spending more time at home:
Most men feel quite guilty when they go for an outing without their baby and wife and automatically choose to spend more time at home with the family after the arrival of your precious bundle. Their priorities change and they realize they actually enjoy spending time with the little baby and his wife – though a night out here and a few drinks there occasionally cannot be ruled out and sounds fair, to say the least. All this stems from their desire to be there for the baby and extend help to you.
5. They begin to help around:
Husbands quickly master the aspect of changing diapers or heating the bottle, and that too, with little or no coaxing. Most men willingly begin to share all the little mite’s responsibilities. They might just take over the kitchen on weekends and cook you a decent meal or look after the baby of you wish to hit the salon. Whether it is changing a diaper or rocking your little one to sleep while you are taking the much needed nap, all make you realize how well your hubby has stepped into his daddy’s role
6. New set of friends:
You form an entirely new circle of friends consisting of first time parents just like you. Seemingly thrust upon friendships like dads you meet while waiting at the pediatrician’s clinic or at your little one’s vaccination center may turn to lifelong friendships. Hence, you may be pleasantly surprised to discover your reserved husband opening up and sharing anecdotes with other parents leaving ground for lovely and unexpected family friends
7. Men realize the value of safety and comfort:
Only when they become fathers do men realize how important safety and comfort is for both you and your baby in every sense of the word. They work to ensure them a baby seat is installed in your car for safety and learn how to fold strollers. These are just some of the simplest things your man will take care of to ensure your little one is safe and happy
8. Take on parenting together:
You and your husband begin taking roles as parents as a team and start sharing parental duties together; be it good or bad. Your man, even though not very comfortable in the beginning will surely put in more effort in trying to do his parental duties with you. In short, your relationship also grows, bringing you closer together as couple providing you with the much needed foundation for a long lasting and loving marital relationship
9. Playing with your little one:
Most men enjoy playing with their little one and begin keeping aside some fixed time every day for those special moments that are sure to increase the baby’s bonding with his or her dad. And this session will only gradually increase as your little one grows up
10. They begin talking to your little bundle:
Most dads, even though they may feel quite self conscious in the beginning start talking with the little baby, and this is surely a positive sign of fatherhood, bonding the little one closer with the father. You can watch the way both your husband’s and baby’s face light up when they see each other after a long day away from your child
There is no argument about the fact fatherhood is one amazing journey and is something that you will never trade for anything. Your husband will surely realize this sooner or later and hold hands with you in bringing up your little one to help him or her grow into a lovely human being.