Children are a source of immense happiness to a family. It is they who make a family complete. A newborn has its own features and peculiarities. There are a lot of challenges which a parent faces with a newborn, but over time, he or she starts understanding what the baby wants. Once a child becomes a year old he or she is referred to as a toddler. Toddler is a child who is between 12 months and about 3 years of age. The word is derived from the word ‘toddle; which means ‘to walk unsteadily’. This is what they do at that age.
Children at this stage are developing very fast. They are developing social skills and also becoming emotionally strong. They go through varieties of emotions like happiness, sorrow, anger, irritation etc. Tantrums are their way of giving release to emotions. They might be having difficulty in figuring something out or completing a task. This frustration gets expressed as a tantrum. Adults express their emotions by saying what they feel. But in case of small children who have not yet learnt to express their feeling in words, they throw tantrums. It is a very normal part of growing up.
Children throw tantrums by crying, yelling, pushing things, hitting out, throwing stuff etc. They do not have control over themselves and often their behaviour ends up in an emotional outburst. Temper tantrums in children is a very common behavioural issue and it is mainly to get the attention of the adults. Usually this becomes less frequent and less intense as the child grows. In toddlers, tantrums are not planned to humiliate or embarrass the parents and are usually sudden fits of irritation. But in slightly older children, it could also be planned keeping in mind that the parent may give in to their demand if they throw a tantrum.
The most sensible way to handle a tantrum is
If the tantrum is for an unreasonable demand, the parent should very firmly communicate that it is not acceptable. However much the child cries, the parent should not give in. Also the parent can tell the child that throwing a tantrum will not yield any results. If he wants something, he will have to use words and express himself.
Further, tantrums can be prevented keeping in the mind the following:
Tantrums reduce as the child starts developing self control. In case even after 4 or 5 years of age, the child is unable to control temper tantrums, it is good to seek professional help. Doctors will check physical and psychological conditions of the child and accordingly decide what corrective action is to be taken.
Tantrums should be corrected at a younger age, so that they do not become a way of life as the child grown into an adult. If not corrected early, the adult could become anti social.