How is the feeling of getting an adopted baby home? Exciting with a tinge of nervousness, isn’t it? Subsequent to completion of those stubborn legal formalities, finally you can bring your baby home. The little bundle is finally home, but it may be some time before she starts feeling at home. You might have to confront few predicaments pertaining to your adopted baby’s likes, dislikes, preferences, mood swings and most importantly her bond with your other children if any.
- Time to Adjust: Since your baby has come to a new house with new surrounding and new people, she is likely to feel grumpy and irritable. Do not panic if she is crying every now and then or finding it difficult to adjust in the family. Grant her some time to get accustomed to new things and sights.
- Ask For Help: There is nothing to shy in seeking help from your closed ones. Adopted children are more worrisome than biological ones since everything is new to them. They require more attention of yours as compared to your own ones. You can ask a friend or family or even maid to help you in house management like food preparation, dusting, taking care of your biological children and many more. You can use this time to strengthen bond between your baby and you.
- Cuddle Your Baby: In order to form a strong bond between your baby and you, try and spend with her as much quality time as you can. Whenever she cries, do not become anxious. As all the babies have the tendency to cry, whether biological ones or adopted. Shower your love, affection, kisses and cuddles on them and make them feel yours. Cuddling should be done to some extent only as it increases the risk of converting your baby into spoilt brat. Read dharma related or some other interesting books in front of your baby.
- Set Up A Routine: Set up your baby’s routine and stick to it. If your baby does not get what she wants timely, she is going to spread the blues. A child feels happy and satisfied if her things have been taken care of nicely. Set a schedule including her bathing, eating, feeding, sleeping and cuddling time.
- Keep A Control On Your Mood: As your adopted baby has entered a new phase of life, likewise even you have made a big transition. There might be chances of you getting highly irritated, depressed and tired of handling your baby. Consult your doctor or a counsellor- you might be suffering from PAD (Post adoption counsellor). This is not a major thing to worry about. You can get associated with adoption support group and get to know more about how to tackle such children.