Written by Pradeep
What is the feeling of Bringing an adopted baby home? Exciting with a tinge of nervousness, isn’t it? Subsequent to completion of those stubborn legal formalities, finally you can bring your baby home.
The little bundle is finally home, but it may be some time before she starts feeling at home. You might have to confront a few predicaments pertaining to your adopted baby’s likes, dislikes, preferences, mood swings, and most importantly her bond with your other children if any.
Here are some tips that might help you and your baby lead a smooth life.
Since your baby has come to a new house with new surroundings and new people, she is likely to feel grumpy and irritable. Do not panic if she is crying every now and then or finding it difficult to adjust to the family. Grant her some time to get accustomed to new things and sights.
There is nothing to shyness in seeking help from your close ones. Adopted children are more worrisome than biological ones since everything is new to them. They require more attention of yours as compared to your own ones. You can ask a friend or family or even a maid to help you in house management like food preparation, dusting, taking care of your biological children, and many more. You can use this time to strengthen the bond between your baby and you.
In order to form a strong bond between your baby and you, try and spend as much quality time as you can. Whenever she cries, do not become anxious. As all the babies have the tendency to cry, whether biological or adopted. Shower your love, affection, kisses, and cuddles on them and make them feel yours. Cuddling should be done to some extent only as it increases the risk of converting your baby into a spoilt brat. Read dharma-related or some other interesting books in front of your baby.
Set up your baby’s routine and stick to it. If your baby does not get what she wants timely, she is going to spread the blues. A child feels happy and satisfied if her things have been taken care of nicely. Set a schedule, including her bathing, eating, feeding, sleeping, and cuddling time.
As your adopted baby has entered a new phase of life, likewise even you have made a big transition. There might be chances of you getting highly irritated, depressed, and tired of handling your baby. Consult your doctor or a counselor- you might be suffering from PAD (Post-adoption counselor). This is not a major thing to worry about. You can get associated with an adoption support group and get to know more about how to tackle such children.