First time expectant fathers have some serious stuff coming their way! Handling a woman going through the nine months of uncertainty and fear is certainly not easy. There is a lot more than doctor visits and medications. The life is going to change and how!
Once the pregnancy is confirmed, the expectant father needs to take an appointment with an expert doctor. It is advisable that both partners go together for the first consultation and briefing. This gives them an idea as to what to expect and how to be geared up for it.
It is good to clear all the doubts with the doctor. The nine months journey is not easy but timely and regular visits to the doctor will make things easy and clear for both of you.
The mom to be goes through terrible nausea, mood swings, backaches, headaches, body pain and other emotional and physical changes. They have to be there to support her through it all. There are routine jobs that need to get done, pregnant or not. They can pitch in to lessen the load. This will relax the woman as well as give her the confidence that she is not in this situation alone.
In case of a pregnancy, it is the woman who will be getting all the attention from family and friends. The man often tends to feel left out. In such cases, it is good to be handy around the house and involved in every aspect of the pregnancy. This gives the man a sense of purpose and involvement. It is good for both partners because it feels like a true partnership.
She will be fussed on by family and friends. All elders will give advice on dos and don’ts during this period. It is good for the man to be party to all the action. Women generally become adverse to smells of cooking in the initial weeks of pregnancy. So it is good for the man to help out in the kitchen.
Also women are advised not to carry heavy things during the period of pregnancy and especially in the initial stage. So it is important that the man be around to lift groceries and heavy duty stuff for the home.
Also it is important that men become vocal about what they are going through as the pregnancy develops in the woman. There is a strong emotional bond which develops which helps the baby’s well being.
It is a good idea to get the place ready for the baby. Also, keep communicating with the woman because during this stage, frustration will start creeping in. She would want to just deliver the child and be done with the act. It is good to lend an ear so that she can vent out her feelings.
The complete experience is exhilarating. It is a very proud moment for the dad when he holds the little one in his hands. Get ready to cherish and lock these moments forever!