Written by Smita Srivastava
Toddler whining is challenging and annoying because it’s difficult to ignore in most circumstances. Your morning routine or a well-crafted plan can eventually go for a toss when your little one complains with frustration, crying, and anger. Marked by high-pitched, distressed crying, whining is symbolic of drama and exaggeration that the tiny tot uses to gather parental attention.
At times, whining symbolizes mood swings and a happy toddler can become cranky, irritable, and uneasy. This article will look into the potential triggers of whining along with ways parents can manage such behaviors.
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At some point, every parent experiences toddler whining issues. Least to say, the experience of the parent is helpless if the behavior unfolds in a public place all of a sudden. Whining is a commonly observed behavior in toddlerhood. Research reports show that whining is also a vocal expression of anger. Almost 25-85% of angry manifestations of toddlers comprise whining, screaming, and nagging cries (1).
Other studies on toddler whining showed that it has an attention-grabbing ability (2). Most toddlers use it as a means to convey dissatisfaction, discomfort, or a desire for attention. This troubling behavior also manifests if the toddler is hungry, overtired, or feeling unnoticed. Some of the probable reasons of whining are-
Some of the facts about whining are given here-
Whining is loud, annoying, energetic, and hard to ignore. However, it doesn’t mean that you can always allow such behaviors to get onto your nerves. While ignoring initially may seem plausible, its intensity often demands attention, necessitating a measured response from parents.
Your toddler is trying to test your patience but you need to stay calm and composed. Overreacting with shouting or spanking can lead to louder cries. However, your toddler will model your calm behavior because they love to imitate and learn what you’re doing.
Though loud and irritating, whining is a form of communication. Thus, it’s vital that you validate their feelings as real. Avoid ignoring and assure them that you’re noticing the issue they’re facing and will try to resolve it. In this way, the toddler feels heard, loved, and respected.
Notice instances when your toddler expresses feelings calmly without throwing tantrums or whining. Praise their efforts by offering physical attention such as rubbing their head, patting their backs, a soft hug, or even a kiss. This encourages your toddler to learn other effective ways of communication and not loud cries only.
Ensure your toddler’s basic needs such as hunger, tiredness, or discomfort is met to minimize whining triggers. For this, follow a consistent routine where eating and sleep timings are preset and the toddler feels energized and happy.
You can redirect your toddler’s attention to some other activity when whining starts. Simply change the location, or give them a toy to distract them from the source of annoyance.
Sometimes whining can be a bad habit only. Your toddler may not realize that they are doing it. Therefore, you can set warnings by saying, “No whining please. You know it’s not allowed in our house”. This acts as a reminder to the toddler that begging and nagging will not be heard. Instead, they’re encouraged to express their desires only when they exhibit appropriate behavior.
There are certain tips that can be followed at home to prevent whining altogether-
The duration of the whining phase varies from one toddler to the other. However, it may last for weeks and months if consistent guidance is not given to the toddler. Usually, toddlers of 2.5 to 4 year olds are more prone to whine than others.
Your toddler might whine in sleep due to dreams, physical discomfort, or a transitional sleep phase. Usually, this is a temporary occurrence and gets resolved on its own. If the condition persists longer, you can consult a doctor for guidance.
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With a background in Mass media and journalism, Smita comes with rich and vast experience in content creation, curation, and editing. As a mom of a baby girl, she is an excellent candidate for writing and editing parenting and pregnancy content. The content she writes and edits is influenced by her own journey through pregnancy and motherhood. When not writing- She can be found curled up with a book. Or, bingeing on Netflix.Read more.
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