Written by Pradeep
Parenting is a blissful journey of nurturing your child with love and affection. Earlier the couple who had medical issues and could not conceive and have children of their own used to rely on adoption. However, in recent years, the perspectives on adoption have changed considerably in India. Nowadays, even couples who have kids of their own, sometimes adopt a child. Thanks to the influencing elite class of our society like the film stars, adoption is slowly becoming a trend. Have you heard about Adopted Child Syndrome?
Adoption is a great blessing for the people who fall under transgender, women who don’t want to go through the whole process of conceiving and delivery, a man or woman who has no desire to get stuck in a marriage but loves to be a solitary parent to a child. But it may be noted that bringing up an adopted child is not always as simple as it sounds. Sometimes, they could come with a psychological array. The adopted child syndrome is something that could be anticipated in such children, to different degrees.
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An adopted child syndrome or ACS is a disorder found among some adopted kids that happen as a result of a number of psychological and emotional problems they go through. This includes:
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The signs and symptoms of Adopted Child Syndrome will be different for different children. More often, the adoptive children with these issues will not open up their emotions and thoughts with the foster parents. Therefore, the parents should be aware and watch out for the following signs of ACS, as the adopted child bears twice the risks of psychological issues than normal children.
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The reasons that pave the way for the adopted child to develop ACS are:
According to the available evidence, the children whose connection with their biological mother is severed either before birth, during birth, or during pre-verbal life (before a baby knows a language and uses words to communicate) develop primal wounds.
Thus, every child given up for adoption get that feeling of rejection to some extent irrespective of how young they are. This causes a primal wound, which often gives rise to the adopted child syndrome
The orphaned and abandoned kids carry the pain of parting from their biological parents. Even very small babies, who are not able to remember the trauma, could feel it subconsciously. This creates a fear that their adopted family also would leave them one day. This fear of separation from the new family can result in adopted child syndrome.
If the adopted family comes from a different ethnic origin than the adopted child, let it be skin or hair color, facial features, etc., the child could find it hard to adjust and feel the as odd one out and has an increased chance to grow up into a confused personality
Even if the adopted family and the adopted child come from the same nationality or race, obviously they will not resemble each other due to genetic differences. Not having any resemblance to other family members can create a feeling of being different which gradually may pave the way to adopted child syndrome
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Not all the children who are adopted exhibit the effects of adopted child syndrome. Many of them grow normally like any other children. However, several researchers have found that the rate of psychological maladies is more among adopted children than in normal ones. Here are some effects of ACS.
It is a fact that adoption provides a huge positive change to abandoned children who have experienced a tough life and rejection in their young lives. However, as foster parents, it is equally important to put additional effort to make the kids settle down in their new life. The following steps will help to prevent or decrease the intensity of ACS:
Find more time to care for and love him. Each and every gesture of yours should provide him a feeling that you love him and care for him and that he is an integral part of your life. Giving him a hug, holding his hand while speaking sweetly to him, ruffling his hair with love, etc., help to increase his confidence and trust.
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Never try to forcefully mold the character of the adopted kid according to your wish by scolding and punishing. Give them time to settle down and eventually through love and explaining the logical consequences of his act slowly bring him and mold him according to your wish
Encourage the child to socialize. Give the child every opportunity and create events (like planning a party, taking him to the park, etc.) to socialize with the neighbors and friends. This will eventually help the child to come out of his cocoon
Adopted children are always in scare of losing people around them as they experience the same early in their lives. It is imperative to instill the confidence in them that you are going to be around him/her permanently and not just for a few hours or days
It is very difficult to understand and recognize the symptoms of Adoptive child syndrome. So you have to closely watch your adopted child and if he shows any of ACS then timely medical intervention is necessary. Take him to a psychotherapist who will look at his symptoms and treat him accordingly. Psychotherapy will help to remove the negative feelings, guilt, anxiety, rejection, etc., from your adopted child’s mind.