A divorce or a separation agreement between the parents, not only brings sadness, worries and loneliness in the parent’s life, but it is also a big source of trouble for the children. It is reflected in their behaviour and they tend to show it too often by getting outrageous. Studies have shown that the children of the parents who are happily married, have a more stable, settled and easy going life and behaviour. Efforts have to be made by both the separated parents to make sure that their separation is not causing trouble to their children. Lot of love, care and patience is required for that.
Children often show the effect of the parent’s divorce or separation on them in either one or more of the following ways-
Anger- Children may get angry and display violent behaviour even at the smallest things, when something is troubling them inside.
Negativity in the behaviour– They may show their resentment by responding to things negatively or by choosing not to respond at all.
Loneliness- They may choose to stay away from their parents and the entire process of separation, without expressing themselves much.
Depression– the child may slowly slide away into depression with the anxiety of parent’s separation.
If your child does not come out of the minor depression caused by your separation even after several months, then you need to look for the warning signals:
If you see such signals, then you should consult a child therapist or a child doctor to help your child. Parents who are planning their separation need to be really careful about several things:
If you follow these tips, you can help your child get away with the separation anxiety soon and with less effort. Let your child know that everything will be normal soon and he will get used to the change in no time. Don’t let the feeling of depression sink in.