Most pregnant women deal with mood swings at some point in their pregnancy, mostly during the first and the last trimesters. Hormonal changes taking place during pregnancy coupled with physical and emotional changes fluctuates the mood of the expecting mother. True, mood swings during pregnancy can sometimes be a cause of concern and may stress your marriage and relationship, but hey, this is your pregnant wife here! It can be hard for a man to put up with all kinds of crazy and irrationaly moodiness, but that is what love is all about.
Understanding Pregnancy Mood Swings
So you got to know that your wife is pregnant, and though you are somewhat in the middle of being happy and yet scared of the changes post baby, she decides to throw a random request of a food craving at 2 am. You tell her that tomorrow morning her desire will have to be furnished, but she resorts to a fit of crying and howling and cursing and you are left in a desperate situation not knowing what you did that you should not probably have done. No, it isn’t she, it is her hormones. The partner should understand that it is not her true self but the hormonal changes that makes her react differently in different situations. Let not her mood swings affect your relation with her. It is important for the partner to understand that her mood swings are temporary and is caused by pregnancy. She might want to fight over trivial issues, will get teary for small stuff, she might overreact on small issues, she might dislike things which she liked once or her insecurity towards you might increase because of the physical changes she undergoes or any such odd behaviour are just part of her mood swing.
10 Tips To Deal With Her Mood Swings
Pregnancy is a beautiful journey, and though it may seem impossible at times, yet pregnancy and childbirth will make your relationship much, much stronger than ever before. Your wife will continue to have these emotional roller-coaster rides where she will up up and down, and you will feel like you are not doing anything right. But because you love her, and understand that she is going through a plethora of physical, mental and emotional changes, the below tips will help you deal with her moodswings in a effective way:
- Be patient: The first and the most important point! Two people arguing will do no good to each other! The partner must try to be patient while dealing with a pregnant wife’s mood swings. Let not her fluctuating behaviour makes you irritated and frustrated. Just remember, her mood swings will not last forever. So work on your tolerance level for her sake
- Refrain from tit for tat: Do not respond to her anger with anger, it will just make her mood worse. Try to sort it out with love and tenderness. She might cry, yell or get irritated for no reason, in such situations, husband must try to comfort her and make her feel better instead of getting angry on her. Try not to provoke her.
- Take good care of her diet: Try not to eat junk food in front of her. Accompany her in healthy eating mission and do encourage the same. Do not tempt her by eating food that can be dangerous for the baby’s growth. And avoid smoking and drinking in her presence. Low blood sugar can trigger mood swings, so if you find her going cranky all the way, offer something she likes to eat!
- Forget the rationals: Rationalism goes for a toss when your wife’s hormones are at their moodiest best. During arguments, try to be flexible and do not correct her for every single thing. During pregnancy it’s not about right or wrong but it’s about letting it go for your wife’s sake
- Make her feel special and beautiful: At times the cause for her mood swing is the feeling of getting unattractive and fat. The belly is all big, the boobs all heavy and the feet swollen. She cannot wear her old dresses and dresses that she wears now no longer fit in after a few weeks. You see what she is going through? Let her know that she is still beautiful and attractive for you and your love will never change, no matter what all physical changes her body will undergo
- Work out together: Exercise is a good stress buster so motivate her and join her during her exercise session. Walking is the best exercise, so accompany her during walk and exchange your thoughts and feelings. It’s a good way of bonding
- Date break: Do not lock her in the house- she is not sick. Occassional dates with her will do wonders for both of you. Take her out for movies, dinner or places where she can feel relaxed and forget all her stress and worries
- Show her your love: Of course you do love her, but why not just show it loud enough? Pamper her and make her feel special always. She will feel strong and positive with your moral and physical support. Always give her positive and cheerful surroundings. Take care of her likes and dislikes. She might start liking things which she once disliked. So keep a track on these changes and make her feel special and happy
- Do not take things personally: So she is been yelling and crying and screaming and blasting you for no apparent genuine reasons. Hey, do not end up sulking and taking things personally. Remember, it is not her, it is the hormones talking! Do not respond to her with anger or frustration, it will only provoke her more. Instead show some understanding and a bit of tenderness
- Educate yourself about pregnancy and childbirth: Yes, so a lot of things do not make sense here, but once you do read about what your wife is going through and how the baby is growing, you will probably understand her better. Seeing your active participation in parenthood will make your wife happy and will look forward to welcome the baby with positive approach
Mood swings can have negative affect on your relation, so do not take these fluctuating moods personally. Always remember, it is just a part of pregnancy and your wife loves you and needs your support. So deal with it patiently and always work out in making your relation stronger and healthier. Your love and concern can help her overcome mood swing so always try to understand your wife and be her strong supporter in this journey of parenthood. “Don’t worry about it. I got it.” Simple Words. Powerful Outcome