Pregnancy is a life-changing phase but at the same time a wonderful experience where the pregnancy hormones are working hard to nurture the tiny bud blooming inside your belly. But this is also the phase where these pregnancy hormones can act wacky and take control of your mind making you weepy, miserable, pissed off and stressed out one minute and deliriously happy the next. During pregnancy, it’s very normal to find your moods become unpredictable. But how do you manage mood swings during pregnancy? Keep reading to know more.
What Causes Mood Swings During Pregnancy?
During pregnancy, there is a lot of hormonal changes in the body including the change in the level of estrogen and progesterone which lead to mood swings. Along with it, fatigue and stress can also add up to it. Sometimes you may feel high and energetic. Other times you may feel icky and hate seeing anyone. Mood swings are most common during the first trimester between 6 to 10 weeks. Mood swing can again reappear in the third trimester when the body is at its final stage and getting ready for labor and childbirth.
How To Control Mood Swings During Pregnancy?
- You’re not alone: It is important to understand that you are not alone. And you are not the only one. It is just another aspect of pregnancy and almost all expecting moms go through this phase
- Bonding is the key: Yes, that’s correct. This is the time to bond with your partner. Spend as much time together as possible, if possible plan a vacation. If you are a single mom-to-be, then spend time with your friends and family. Create a support system for yourself. This will be of great help once the tiny one arrives!
- Manage stress level: Stress adds to the mood swings so it is important that you manage your stress level. Get plenty of sleep, eat well, check with your gynecologist and get regular exercise
- Relax, relax and relax: As much as you can… go for a movie or a dinner date with your partner. The more you relax the less will be the stress level
- Go easy: Don’t run around doing chores before you go into your official maternity leave. Instead, sit back and enjoy the most precious time of your life
- Shake it off: If you are going through a mood swing, just try to ignore it. Instead, indulge yourself in something you love to do. A hobby, reading, gardening or spending some time in your favorite spa will be helpful
- Keep your sense of humor on board: Learn to laugh at all the ups and downs during this period along with your partner. Indulge in something that is fun and will make you happy
- Do gentle exercise: It is rightly said that exercise is a mood lifter. So next time you feel your moods fluctuating, just pick yourself up and indulge in some sort of light exercise to get those feel-good chemicals flowing in your body. Go for a swim, get some fresh air by going for a walk outside or do some light yoga
- Talk it through: Talk and share how you feel during mood swings with your spouse, family or close friends. Talking it out is the best antidote to feeling stressed and depressed. Once you share your feelings with your loved ones, you will be surprised to see how understanding and supportive they are. You can also share and discuss how you feel online through various communities of women in the same phase as you and can understand exactly how you are feeling
- Stop feeling guilty: Pregnancy is a beautiful phase but a tough one too. So it is normal to feel overwhelmed, irritable and depressed at times. Stop feeling guilty about the myriad of feelings that you go through during this phase. Don’t be harsh on yourself and accept that you will have some negative feeling and some very nice feelings about your pregnancy
When To Seek Professional Help?
Mood swings are common. But if you notice that your mood swings are becoming too frequent and lasting for more than 2 weeks or hindering your day-to-day activities, talk to your doctor and seek help. Intense mood swings associated with depression and mania can be due to other psychiatric conditions which need medical interference.
Studies have shown untreated emotional conditions can affect the health of the newborn too. Psychotherapy along with medication can help you to overcome these problems and lead a healthy life with your child.
How Do I Deal With The Mood Swings Of My Pregnant Wife?
- Hang in there : As a partner, you need to understand that mood swings are a part of pregnancy and happen to most pregnant women. Please be patient instead of getting frustrated and irritated. This is just a temporary phase and will go away as the pregnancy progresses
- Take good care of her : As her partner you need to take good care of her health and eating habits. Do not indulge her in eating something which can be harmful to her or her baby in the womb. Mood swings can also occur from low blood sugar level. Offer something healthy to eat if you notice your partner having mood swings the next time
- Don’t take it personally : Your partner may blast at you or stop talking to you or just rant throughout the day. Whatever it may be, don’t take it personally. It’s the hormone that’s speaking and not your partner, actually. Let her vent out, don’t argue or provoke her
- Pamper her : This is the time, go for it! Pamper her and show her how much you care for her. Remind her how beautiful she is and how much she means to you. This will not only help to overcome her mood swings but will also in the long run help to strengthen your relationship
- Educate yourself about pregnancy and childbirth: You may not understand a lot of things that your wife is going through and how the baby is is growing. Go ahead read some books specially meant for fathers to be or browse through the internet. All this will help you better understand your pregnant wife. Seeing your active participation in parenthood will make her happy and positive about welcoming the new baby
What Other Moms Are Saying About Mood Swings?
- “I often used to have episodes of meltdowns. I used to sob hysterically for 10 minutes as if the world was crashing down on me. Then it was over, and I’d happily go on with my day.”
- “Thoughts that would come to my mind were: can I be a good mom? Will I ever be able to do the late night parties again?”
- “I used to wonder what would I feed my child and husband? So I used to spend hours in the kitchen making cakes and cookies!”
- “I used to apologize to my husband beforehand! After all, I love him and didn’t mean what I spoke”.